artificial binary choice. I'd prefer everyone could say no and people had an idea of the likelihood of no-ness before asking to preserve their dignity.

Therefore everyone to be equipped with a body language reading app. People who ignore the app results to be ostricised.

That makes a lot of sense. I would say that both have the power. One has the power to ask, and the other has the power to say no. There is a balance. Alternatively, one has the power to coerce, and the other has the power to call down punishment, if she is lucky and strong enough. There still is the possibility of balance, but it is not good.

i've seen a lot of arguments that if women have power over men because they can say no. As if somehow the men can't say no too. It's ridiculous, and it's a blatant misrepresentation of the actual power imbalance.